RalphSnart wrote:
I definitely understand the reluctance...especially if there's not any driving force like a couple of buddies pushing you to go. Hard to motivate.
There's a bunch of deathcore bands playing down the street tonight. It would take me five minutes to walk there, and the beers are cheap. My half brother will likely be there. I don't know if I can soldier through four deathcore bands though, is the thing. I bet my bottom dollar you gentlemen would tap out pretty quick too. Those crazy kids and that infernal racket!
I have even found that even the stuff I like gets fatiguing after about three acts...I suppose I'm getting older too. I'll be 31 in August, and though I occasionally get some spirit in me to get physical and headbang till 2am, I feel like most of the time I need a breather, even without a rough crowd. I think I just got used to pregaming and coming in late, or popping out of a show to grab a slice of pizza or whatever...I think the little breaks keep me from getting burnt out. Tough to do that at most venues though...I've been spoiled at the local dives where I can sort of come and go as I please.
That's the other thing though, most of these shows I'm going to by myself. My wife could care less, and she's ready for sleep at like 10PM, so while I have a relatively high probability of knowing someone at a show, I think that's different than actually going with someone and sharing the experience. Even when I drove out to Days of the Doomed like two weeks ago, I wasn't going to the show myself, and the chance to hang out with a good friend was a big part of the motivation that got me out there in the first place.
Also the record shopping, but still.
I'll be 31 in October, and I agree, I think your general response to the idea of what a show is changes. It's hard in New York now. Everything's in Brooklyn and the crowds there are pretty atrocious, generally. I live way out in NJ and could never walk five minutes and get to a show of any kind. If I walked five minutes, I'd just have to walk the five minutes back and get in my car and drive an hour. I guess I've hit the point where it takes more than it used to for me to want to get out and see a band.